Two simple words, when reversed, mean totally different things with totally different outcomes: “Can I?” versus “I can.”
The first is asking permission—from oneself or from others. It comes from a place of doubt and self-limiting beliefs. It means we seek, or even need, validation to even begin. It means we’re afraid: Afraid to take a risk. Afraid to fail. This question, though seemingly innocuous, leads to inaction and procrastination—and maybe even self-sabotage.
The latter comes from the position of self-confidence and strength. It’s a way of thinking that we use daily here at J2. “I can” embodies empowerment over fear. When we take action first before seeking validation, it doesn’t mean we’re being reckless; it means that we are branching from a solid foundation of self-assuredness. We are not asking for permission, but rather being proactive.
“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson
Enjoy your weekend.