Most people think about networking as what they can get out of it—a lead, a reference, a leg up. But the strongest networks are built by those who give as much as they take. If you only show up when you need a favor, people notice—and eventually, those doors don’t open as easily. Strong networks don’t happen by accident. They’re built through small, consistent actions that show you’re invested in the people around you.
Five Ways to Be the Person Everyone Wants in Their Network
The best networkers do these five things consistently:
- Pass Along Insights, Not Links: Anyone can drop a link into someone’s inbox. What makes you memorable is adding a short note on why it matters. Share a takeaway, a lesson learned, or a practical angle that connects back to their work. The extra context turns a forgettable gesture into a useful one.
- Make Introductions: One of the most valuable things you can do is connect two people who could benefit from knowing each other. The key is to make introductions intentional: ask permission first, explain why you think the connection makes sense, and keep it short. Over time, being known as “the person who knows who to call” gives your network real weight.
- Celebrate Others: Acknowledging someone’s achievements—whether it’s a job change, certification, or project launch—shows you’re invested in more than your own success. A quick LinkedIn comment, a text, or even a small shout-out can carry more weight than you think. People remember who cheered them on, and they’ll often return that energy.
- Follow Up: When someone helps you, close the loop. If they gave you an intro, let them know how it went. If they offered advice, share what you did with it. That “here’s what happened after your help” message is rare—and it makes people more likely to invest in you again.
- Be a Resource, Not a Transaction: Networking is a long game. If you only pop up when you need something, people start to tune you out. Instead, think about how you can be a steady resource. The payoff isn’t immediate, but when your name comes up later, it’ll come with trust attached.
The Right Way to Lean on Your Network
At some point, you’ll need to reach out for help from people in your network. It doesn’t have to feel awkward—if you’ve built real relationships, asking is part of the deal. The difference is how you do it. A clear, respectful ask strengthens the connection instead of straining it.
Here are some ways to approach it:
- Be Specific and Direct: Let them know exactly what you need—whether it’s an intro, advice, or insight—and why you thought of them. People appreciate clear requests.
- Acknowledge the Relationship: Mention how you’ve valued their past help or how you’ve enjoyed staying in touch. It shows you’re not just popping up out of the blue.
- Make It Easy to Say No: Frame your request in a way that’s low-pressure. For example, “If you have a moment” or “If this isn’t a hassle.” That way, they can help if they can, and if not, there’s no hard feelings.
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