There is a phrase: “How you do anything is how you do everything”. I believe this to be true, for the most part.
They say a messy desk is a sign of genius. I am no genius, but my desk at the office is a mess. It drives my assistant nuts. My room at home is also a mess. Both are manageable, until they are not. When that unmanageable point is reached, then I will clean and organize them.
Does this mean that that I have other things to worry about other than my desk or I am a slob? Does it mean I just procrastinate and if so, do I procrastinate often?
The other day I was out getting lunch when someone walking rapidly bumped into me and kept walking without an apology. Does that mean he is a rude person? Is he that way all the time? I tend to give other people the benefit of the doubt most of the time.
Here comes the “But”: There is rarely any excuse to be rude, but what if the person that bumped me was in a hurry or frustrated? It could have been out of character for him to not apologize, or maybe he was in such a rush that he didn’t even realize he bumped me. Or maybe he is just really rude.
The good news is that if you don’t like something it can be changed just like habits. It takes a conscious effort and practice, but with the proper motivation it can be done. When you’re at a restaurant, are you rude to waitstaff who have gotten your order wrong? Take a moment to think about your response before you react to their mistake in way you might regret.
This weekend think about what you want to change.
“I yam what I yam and that’s all what I yam.” – Popeye the Sailor
Abbey, I will clean up my desk…maybe.
Have a great weekend.